I started my new birth control pills this week, which make me feel and act in the same delightful way that I did when I was 15. It's lovely. My husband especially, feels the brunt of this regression. I've been asking (ok, nagging) him to be more supportive of my weight-loss and notice my efforts more and yesterday, as I was getting ready to leave for my walk, he said, "You've been doing really well with your walking. Great job." Yeah, that's nice, right? Well all I could think was, "condescending bastard." And then I went for a walk... in the rain. Ahhh, it's good to be fifteen.
So, is it more irritating to you when people don't notice your efforts and progress or when they do? Am I the only immature one around here?
Wednesday, June 11, 2008
...think I'll go eat worms...
Posted by Kristen at 7:33 AM
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My husband doesn't notice unless he feels like he's not getting food too. Or, he'll say something like "you need to go to the gym," and I can't figure out if it's his way of saying I can go now and he'll watch the kids, or if he's really saying I'm fat and ugly and need to get to the gym. He'll take to "reminding me" each day if I haven't gone yet that I need to go. I don't like that. I know I need to go, I WANT to go, and this past week for instance I haven't been able to go and it has been not cool.
I could strangle mine as well. I had to fold laundry the other day and generally do it upstairs since our bedrooms and the washer and dryer are up there. He told me to just bring it downstairs to fold it cuz it's not like I've gotten a lot of exercise lately anyway and I could stand to go up and down the stairs a couple times. Jerk!
I guess it comes down to how they say what they say, or how they get around talking about it... and most importantly how you take what comes at you. Immaturity be hanged! Take it how you feel it, and if it works, let it be a source of motivation.
And just because this made me think of it...
A sister-in-law of mine has this quote posted on her blog, and I love it...
"A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will annoy enough people around you to make it worth your while."
So I'm thinking let him eat the worms, you got to go for a walk in the rain!!! What a treat! (I love "playing" in the rain!)
Sounds like your husband is damned if he does and damned if he doesn't. I probably wouldn't say anything to a person, or complement them for that matter, if I got the 'your so condescending' look or voice. I feel more for your husband than you.
Odessa,
I think you missed the jocular tone and the bit where I also feel bad for the poor guy. And I rarely give a "you're so condescending" look or comment. I prefer to sulk in solitude and silence:)
Kristen,
Your right, I guess I did miss your tone. I see a lot of women who complain about their husbands not doing something, and when they finally do it, it's not good enough or wrong in some way. Those types of things make me angry, and I lashed out. I'm sorry if my comments hurt you. I think what you are doing is wonderful, and hope you keep up the good work. Don't let me or anyone take you down.
Odessa.
Odessa,
No problem. With this medium, my incredibly clever wit doesn't always come through the way I would like. Thanks for the encouragment. I hope you'll stick around:)
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